Happily Ever After

Oct 30, 2014 / Comments (0) / Written by Rebekah Lusko

Recently, I was reading an article about the will of God. More specifically, it was about whether or not there is such thing as “the one.” I, like countless others, have always wanted a fairy-tale life with the perfect husband who was meant for me and only me since the dawn of time. Our life would be written in the stars and we would ride off together into the sunset. Unfortunately, that article hit me with a big dose of N-O. It explained that we choose who we marry, and there is no such thing as a soulmate. Clutching on to my precious fantasy, I scoffed at the article. I have to have a soulmate. My husband is the one and only one for me. God has a specific will and has my life perfectly lined out for me. This led me to thinking about God's will in other parts of my life—the school I went to, what major I chose, where I live. I’ve always assumed that for every decision I must pray and wait for God’s divine power to lead the way in each specific part of my life. I mean, it's His will that I am sitting here writing this article and not out shopping for food…. Right?

Looking into it, however, I found that that was not the case. Countless quotes and verses suggested otherwise. For example:

“Love God and do whatever you please: for the soul trained in love to God will do nothing to offend the One who is Beloved.” —Augustine

“Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 27: 4).

God's Word reveals that even though He is sovereign over the specific details of our lives, there is not a formula for finding His will, and finding it should not be our focus. God’s will is more about who you are than who you are with or where you go or what you do. David Platt says, “His ultimate concern is not to get you or me from point A to point B along the quickest, easiest, smoothest, clearest route possible. Instead, His ultimate concern is that you and I would know Him more deeply as we trust Him more completely.”

Ultimately, there is no specific timeline for our lives. There is no perfect husband, house, or life set up for you. And honestly, that can be a sad realization.

But why?

Because in our heart of hearts, we are seeking satisfaction in things other than the Lord Himself. We think once we finally get those things that God has specifically prepared for us, then we will be satisfied. When we eagerly try to find what God’s will is in certain areas of our lives, we can start becoming more obsessed with the plan than with the Provider. We begin looking out at our lives instead of up at the Lord for our satisfaction. We can begin to idolize the fairy tale.

But wait, there is good news! We can achieve satisfaction and have a happily ever after. It is solely by looking at the cross: by seeing that we can have a happy and full life because of His sacrifice on the cross. When we fix our eyes on the Lord, He will be our satisfaction. We have direction from God. It’s to “go out into the world and make disciples of all nations” (Matthew 28:19). It's to “love God with all our heart, soul, strength and mind and to love our neighbor as ourselves” (see Luke 10:27). When we are following God’s Word, we will always be in God’s will.

This concept is so freeing. We are not walking on a tightrope, shakily hoping we don't fall off. We don’t have to constantly worry that when we are at a crossroads and we choose one thing over another, we are sinning. When you look at your spouse or future spouse, you don’t have to worry that you are marrying the wrong person, thus setting off an entire series of people marrying the wrong ones. We are free to do what we want, and live and work where we want, knowing that He is “the One,” and always will be no matter what circumstance we are in. He is our happily ever after.

Rebekah Lusko


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